Purpose over Pringles…..

Hayley Blundy - 18 Jun 18

I’m doing it, I’m really bloody doing it. Me. Mum of two, depressed and sleep deprived. Stumbling over more fucking lego in search of purpose and a zest for life that I lost somewhere… probably under a pile of washing.

I, Hayley Blundy, am the proud Founder of Mumpowered Events. (More to come on that…)

I’m not going to lie… starting a company during the depths of PND, with a full on threenager and a cheeky 9 month old in tow might not seem like the brightest idea but honestly? It makes me happy. It makes the hairs on my arms bristle. It has me working till the early hours and still ticking about it long after lights out. It’s giving me purpose, it’s bringing back that zest and getting my brain engaged in something other than the conundrums of Motherhood. I think it might be saving me from sinking deeper.

Things are not good just now. There is a lot of stuff going on in my life that are making some days very difficult indeed. Making my brain work stupidly and causing me to be hyper sensitive, take things the wrong way, overreact, hide, scream and cry. Affecting my home life, my friendships and my health.

Working on this little business of mine is giving me a little glimmer of hope. I am so much more than this. It’s not easy though is it? Fortunately, Instagram has introduced me to some really lovely people and I’m really quite touched by just how much support there is among the ‘Mum’ community.

My confidence is going to take some time. I need to ‘do the work’ and invest in myself to seriously improve my self esteem which is quite possibly the lowest it has ever been and I know that won’t be easy. My biggest challenge is how I think I am perceived by others. I go through my days worrying that I have offended someone, I re-read messages that were not replied to to see if I came across wrong, I assume that I am not invited to stuff because I’m just going to bring people down, If I am invited somewhere, I convince myself that I am the friend that people only invite out of pity and ‘because they should’ and that the minute I leave a room, they will breathe a sigh of relief and talk about me. That every message I send will make the receiver do an eye roll and that really, I don’t have any friends at all and it’s all a big lie. The worst part? The little voice that torments me when I meet someone new. “You’re coming across like a twat”, “She’s not interested in what you have to say”, “She thinks you’re fat” ,”Thought you’d have lost the baby weight by now”, ” You’re so self indulgent”, “shut the f up…” It goes on and on till eventually, I have to make excuses and go.

So why have I chosen to set up a business that requires me to put myself put there, host events and meet loads of new people?! Put simply. I want to help anyone else that goes through this. This is shit. It debilitating, embarrassing and upsetting. It plagues me every.single.damn.day. If I am going to get better, I have to believe I will. Fake it till I make it if I have to. Actually take action and stop being the girl who preaches about the benefits of good nutrition with one hand down a pringles tube.

On a good day, I pride myself on my natural empathy. As a friend, I tend to be ‘the fixer’. I am very solution focused, always have a positive to counteract a negative, a different point of view or something funny to say when a friend is in need. I do it without really thinking and making people feel better is what truly makes me happy. I love it. I love entertaining, seeing smiles, hearing laughter, watching friendships form, sharing, taking photos, making memories. I am going to utilise my favourite things to do and turn it into a full time role. I am going to be someone that I am proud of and in turn, make my family and friends proud of me.

How? Ah-ha! Here is the spiel… taken directly from my Business Plan:

Mumpowered Events is a company offering fun and exciting events for Mums and Mums to be. Helping women to know their worth, never lose sight of themselves, celebrate the person they are, take time out, make friends and meet like-minded women. I aim to lift, empower, inspire, surprise and care for the ladies that come to my events. Badass, incredible women united.

I’m starting a little blog to document my journey, the highs and lows and bits in between. I’m building my story and one day I want to look back and see just how far I have come.

Hayley Blundy

Hey! I am a Married, working Mama of two juggling life the best I can! I suffered with PND and started my business Mum Powered Events to celebrate Mothers for all that they are. I'm also a former street dance teacher and run a dance company with my best friend. I could teach you Thriller, if ya like?!

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