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Sharenting – Are we exploiting our kids online?
But why?
What with all this talk of data protection and the new General Data Protection Regulation (GDPR), which came into play this
Over exposing my children on the Internet is something I’ve been
Just the other day I took a picture of my four-year-old at the breakfast bar, doing a Pokémon jigsaw.
Photographing normal mundane crap. As you do.‘Are you going to Instagram it?’ She asked.
I was a bit taken aback. I didn’t know she even knew what Instagram was. So I asked her.
‘It’s when you put your pictures on the
Wow. You’re pretty switched on, I thought.
As I watched her completing the one hundred piece, age five plus jigsaw, I pondered entering us into Britain’s Brainiest Family. I decided to test her intelligence further.
‘Who is Donald Trump?’ I asked.
She looked skyward and gave it a few seconds thought.
‘The presenter of South America?’ she answered.
Hmmm. Maybe too tough.
‘What is the capital city of Wales?’ I tried.
‘Coffi Cwtch?’ (a small Café we sometimes go to), she said.
Ok so,
Question:
So she knows the words ‘Instagram’ and ‘Internet’, but does she actually grasp what they are, and what they are for?
Answer:
No. Definitely not.
Which is why I’ve decided to be very careful when it comes to putting my innocent, naïve, ‘no real concept of what the internet is’ children out there.
Super Nix & Gusset Girl… real identity unknown!This is where I stand (I’ve taken my lead from
No faces
No names
Age but never reveal their birthdays
No pics of the front of our house or our road
No pics of school uniform or their school
Never tag our location
No naked, swimwear & no underwear pics
No degrading images or stories
But what is degrading? This is subjective. No?
Surely, some things are blatantly degrading though. Right? For
Eeeeewww!! For f*ck sake!
Nobody wants to see that!!! Even if they are in a Batman costume looking super cute and you think it’s totally hilar.
Stop and think!
Would you post a picture of your husband taking a dump? Your mother? No. Would you post a picture of yourself taking a dump? Exactly. Surely your child is not going to be happy with this in ten years time.
And by the way, I am judging. My judgement is – all parents who post
Emine Saner wrote a great piece for the Guardian this week, ‘The ’sharent’ trap – should you ever put your children on social media?’ In it we learn a few key things must come into play, when we are thinking of sharing information about our kids publicly online.
Before posting consider…
Respect – Is the content appropriate? Are you treating your kids with dignity? Will they be annoyed, embarrassed or anxious by what you have posted in years to come?
Consent – Even though kids are too young to give consent (in my opinion) it is widely agreed by experts that having a conversation with your children and asking for their consent is essential.
Safety – Are you compromising their safety? Locations, school uniforms and naked pictures, amongst other things, all compromise their safety. Probably best to keep stuff like that private.
People may argue that telling a story about my six-year-old bashing herself in the clitoris last month was undignified and
So, by posting that story about my six year old am I guilty of exploiting my kids online?
By featuring offspring on their feeds/in adverts are the Insta giants guilty of exploiting their kids online?
It may be interesting to note here, that a lot of influential Instagramers think that the people opposed to over exposing kids, are in the minority. Not
So are these influencers exploiting their kids or not?
Exploitation is such a strong
So…
Is featuring your kids in adverts unfair or underhand?
Is including your kids in posts to gain more followers or get more ‘likes’ unfair or underhand?
Is it fair or underhand to post without their consent?
Hmmmm… Let’s talk about the C word?
How much should we be worrying about consent? The kids don’t really have a say in any
So what does the future hold? In years to come are we going to get reams of Insta famous kids suing their 500k followers strong Insta parents for a breech of their privacy and a violation of their human rights?
Maybe.
Like child stars of days gone by, are these over exposed Insta
It’s such uncharted territory.
Maybe I’m overthinking things here. I
I mean is posting a picture of your kid in their St David’s day costume on a public Instagram profile any different to when pictures of us were published in the Daily Post for thousands (ok, maybe hundreds) to see when we were kids?
Is featuring a pic of your kid on the loo sh*tting, any different to your mum passing around a picture album at a dinner party of you with your peggy out in the paddling pool when you were
Is any of this any different?
Not really.
With regards to featuring kids in adverts, is it really exploitative? Just as some parent’s kids are models, or feature on TV shows such as Britain’s Got Talent, some parents will choose to feature their children in Instagram adverts. There are financial gains involved, which will obviously benefit the whole family. So is that really a negative
Surely it’s personal choice and preference. We are all just doing what we think is the best for our children after all.
So, as long as we all use careful consideration, weighing up the pros and cons along with a bit of common sense, before publicly posting anything featuring our kids, then surely that’s a good place to start.
Whatever happens, I think all this talk has to be seen as a positive as it has really made people think. Hopefully it will make parents take better care before featuring kids on their feeds, and if that means we
***No children were over exposed in the writing of this blog post***