What ever happened to personal choice?
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So, after a busy day, baby in bed, brew in hand, it’s mummy time. All set for a relax and catch up on tele until I clicked open my Facebook!
Im part of a few mummy groups, a woman in one asked about advice on telling her midwife she doesn’t want to breast feed as she was scared she’d be pressured into it. This morning I commented simply saying her baby, her choice and no one should pressure her into anything, plus there’s no saying that she won’t change her mind between now and birth so it wasn’t something that needed deciding on now (it was the
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girls first midwife appointment) and told her that I felt I was the same and my midwife was all for breastfeeding and once I told her I had no interest, it wasn’t mentioned again. Simple as, or so I though. The absolute barrage of abuse I got for that comment is mind blowing!
People are massively offended that I just didn’t want to breast feed. From before I ever got pregnant I just knew it wasn’t for me, having a child now who is happy and healthy and eats me out of house and home, it was 100% the right decision for us as a family. So WHY does it
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matter? Who are these people to judge me? They are far worse people than I for being so hideously judgemental. I don’t care how anyone feeds their kid, whip your boob out, stick a bottle in its mouth. It does not matter. It’s no ones business but yours (and your partners-ish)
My first born wasn’t breast fed, any future children I have will not be breastfed. And im a very proud formula feeder!
Im sat here totally gob smacked. Being told if I wasn’t willing to give my child the best start then I shouldn’t of had kids. WHAT?! This poor, poor girl
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wanted some advice and reassurance and she has to sit and read and all this negativity! What happened to a bit of girl power and just supporting each other. I’ve private messaged the girl and just said to her DONT listenen to anyone. Not me, not anyone and just follow her own mind.
Ive left a few of the parenting groups on a few of the social sites because they’re just not help full. Constant bashing and ridicule . The people who tend to reach out on those sites are people who don’t have a supportive network or close friends and family, that’s why
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they’re there. Looking for a strangers ear to bend and opinion. I honestly feel for those people who come looking for some support and end up getting slated or laughed at.
Im also massively sad that this girl is SCARED to tell her midwife how she wants to feed her baby. I totally understand that they have to give you all the information around breastfeeding but the pressure put on women to breastfeed now is just abysmal.
I always feel like us parents should stick together. Wether we agree with someone’s choices or not is not our concern. Seems
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lots dont feel the same.
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PaisleyMother - 2 Jan 18
So, after a busy day, baby in bed, brew in hand, it’s mummy time. All set for a relax and catch up on tele until I clicked open my Facebook!
Im part of a few mummy groups, a woman in one asked about advice on telling her midwife she doesn’t want to breast feed as she was scared she’d be pressured into it. This morning I commented simply saying her baby, her choice and no one should pressure her into anything, plus there’s no saying that she won’t change her mind between now and birth so it wasn’t something that needed deciding on now (it was the girls first midwife appointment) and told her that I felt I was the same and my midwife was all for breastfeeding and once I told her I had no interest, it wasn’t mentioned again. Simple as, or so I though. The absolute barrage of abuse I got for that comment is mind blowing!
People are massively offended that I just didn’t want to breast feed. From before I ever got pregnant I just knew it wasn’t for me, having a child now who is happy and healthy and eats me out of house and home, it was 100% the right decision for us as a family. So WHY does it matter? Who are these people to judge me? They are far worse people than I for being so hideously judgemental. I don’t care how anyone feeds their kid, whip your boob out, stick a bottle in its mouth. It does not matter. It’s no ones business but yours (and your partners-ish)
My first born wasn’t breast fed, any future children I have will not be breastfed. And im a very proud formula feeder!
Im sat here totally gob smacked. Being told if I wasn’t willing to give my child the best start then I shouldn’t of had kids. WHAT?! This poor, poor girl wanted some advice and reassurance and she has to sit and read and all this negativity! What happened to a bit of girl power and just supporting each other. I’ve private messaged the girl and just said to her DONT listenen to anyone. Not me, not anyone and just follow her own mind.
Ive left a few of the parenting groups on a few of the social sites because they’re just not help full. Constant bashing and ridicule . The people who tend to reach out on those sites are people who don’t have a supportive network or close friends and family, that’s why they’re there. Looking for a strangers ear to bend and opinion. I honestly feel for those people who come looking for some support and end up getting slated or laughed at.
Im also massively sad that this girl is SCARED to tell her midwife how she wants to feed her baby. I totally understand that they have to give you all the information around breastfeeding but the pressure put on women to breastfeed now is just abysmal.
I always feel like us parents should stick together. Wether we agree with someone’s choices or not is not our concern. Seems lots dont feel the same.
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