Why can’t I just give myself a break?
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A couple of days ago I saw a random post on Facebook and the headline caught my eye. It was something along the lines of – ’Does having to feel grateful about what we have diminish our feelings in terms of what we don’t have?’
For the last year whenever I’ve felt down I’ve told myself to ’be grateful’. The reality is a lot of people are dead, have cancer, can’t walk, can’t eat and are exposed to levels of violence that you can’t even imagine in your mushy pink think machine… so stop with the whining & get on with it!
I now
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realise that this is where I’ve been going wrong.
I should’ve allowed myself to say – ’My feelings matter. I am lucky in different ways but I’m sad that my vagina is a mess and I can’t drive & I’m struggling with learning.’
Or that I’m spending too much money and I don’t have to follow the herd and find a happiness and a thrill that I’m often missing in daily life. And I’m overeating because an empty tummy would match my sometimes empty heart (and that I feel hopeless & sad yet do feel love – I’ve not turned into a stone). In a
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nut shell what I’m trying to say is that being sad doesn’t mean youre ungrateful or that you’re whinging. It means youre sad and in of need comfort.
Not chastising. Or made to feel guilty.
Be kind to yourself.
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Eloise - 19 Feb 18
A couple of days ago I saw a random post on Facebook and the headline caught my eye. It was something along the lines of – ‘Does having to feel grateful about what we have diminish our feelings in terms of what we don’t have?’
For the last year whenever I’ve felt down I’ve told myself to ‘be grateful’. The reality is a lot of people are dead, have cancer, can’t walk, can’t eat and are exposed to levels of violence that you can’t even imagine in your mushy pink think machine… so stop with the whining & get on with it!
I now realise that this is where I’ve been going wrong.
I should’ve allowed myself to say – ‘My feelings matter. I am lucky in different ways but I’m sad that my vagina is a mess and I can’t drive & I’m struggling with learning.’
Or that I’m spending too much money and I don’t have to follow the herd and find a happiness and a thrill that I’m often missing in daily life. And I’m overeating because an empty tummy would match my sometimes empty heart (and that I feel hopeless & sad yet do feel love – I’ve not turned into a stone). In a nut shell what I’m trying to say is that being sad doesn’t mean youre ungrateful or that you’re whinging. It means youre sad and in of need comfort.
Not chastising. Or made to feel guilty.
Be kind to yourself.
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