Why Mums Need Mum Friends

Diva Mum - 10 Dec 18

Mum friends. They are those friends, I swore I’d never have. I would never conform to social cliques at the school gates. My kid would be dropped off at birthday parties and left there until I picked them up at the end. I wouldn’t need Mum friends, I have my own friends.

Just because I’m a mum doesn’t meet I have to join a mother’s meeting, right?

WRONG!!! 

Mums need mum friends! And the reasons why are stated below.

1) Nobody understands being a mum, like a mum. Nobody understands what it’s like to live and breath shitty nappies and baby puke. Sleepless nights, sometimes 14 on the bounce.

2) You want to talk about your kid, you said you wouldn’t be one of those mums, but they are your biggest achievement and everyone loves to celebrate their successes right? Other mums are the only people in the world as interested in your kid as you are, and that’s because they’re waiting for their turn to brag about their biggest achievements too.

3) Your non mum friends will never understand when you can’t do something because of the kids. They don’t understand why you’ve bailed on their birthday because your kid is ill, surely you can leave them with your mum and they’ll be fine?

Yes Louise, I could well do that, but my baby wants her mum and her mum (me) wants to be there for her when she’s asking for me and crying her little eyes out.

4) Only other mums know what it’s like to squeeze a melon out of a hole the size of a ferrero rocher. (I know what you’re thinking) 😜 Or what it’s like to have your stomach sliced open and your baby pulled out.

5) Mum guilt. You know, that feeling, that you feel at some point every single day of your life when you have kids. Do I do enough with them? Do I feed them well enough? Are they happy? Will they hate me for forcing them to go to preschool whilst they are screaming for me to take them home?! Am I the worst person in the world for flipping them the bird behind their back? Yep, other mums feel that guilt too.

6) Primal instinct. Yep that’s right, the blind rage you feel when someone has hurt your child is beyond explainable, even if it was another two year old, accidentally at soft play. The only time you ever really mean it when you say, “I’d take a bullet for you.”

7) Nap time. Only other mums understand why you lose your mind if your kid falls asleep in the car at 5pm. Why you don’t go out between 1 & 3 because if your child naps whilst you’re out, you don’t get an hour to sit down in peace! Only mums understand why your life literally revolves around naps and bed time and the sacredness of the moment they fall asleep.

And there are so many more reasons why mum friends are good for the soul. Don’t get me wrong, your friends who don’t have kids are still important, they still hold a place in your life. They are the ones you can get absolutely shitfaced with because they still have stamina and don’t have to get up at 5am with a toddler. They are the ones that have the BEST gossip. They are the ones you get to live vicariously through. To talk about everything and anything with. They are still the dogs nuts, but what I’m trying to say is, there is room for both in your life. And if you lose a few people along the way because your common interests change, that’s ok too. As your children grow, they open doors to different stages of your life and whilst I never thought I’d say this…. it’s bloody brilliant.

Diva Mum

31 year old, over thinker, tea drinker, over sharer & over swearer. Loves: my child (obviously) moaning, beach walks, tea and writing!

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